Sudden sense of strangeness and loneliness, it is hard to breathe, very confused?
You may suddenly feel that all those familiar things around you are becoming a bit strange, as if everything is changing quietly. You look back to the past more often than worrying about the future, always unconsciously avoiding reality and indulging in memories. At times like these, even if you can talk to people normally, it feels unreal. In your heart, you are afraid of being alone, yet you are surrounded by loneliness at times. You are full of worries about your future and don't know where the direction is. When this kind of emotion comes up, even breathing becomes difficult.
Hello, friend! Where do you think your loneliness falls?
Is it that ache of longing for a connection with the outside world, or the feeling of loneliness when you're left alone?
Typically, there are two types of loneliness: the loneliness we feel when we are alone, and spiritual loneliness, which can occur with or without people around.
Many people understand loneliness as the feeling of being on your own; it's more of a mental state or emotion. But in fact, for many people, loneliness hides behind negative experiences such as emptiness, pain, sadness, fear or anxiety.
The root of loneliness often comes from regret for the lost self or an agonizing longing for what has not been gained.
As the old saying goes, the three most painful things in life are: you can't let go, you can't let go, and you can't forget. Without these longings, loneliness might not find its way to your door.
In fact, facing loneliness is not scary, what is scary is that we are used to self-deception. The more you resist and avoid loneliness, the stronger it becomes. Unwilling to accept the true feelings, and can not find a solution, over time, this negative way of coping easily evolved into depression.
As you describe, you may be less inclined to socialize, which is common. This is because lonely people are more likely to be distrustful, suspicious, or anxious of others, or even avoid crowds altogether. After being alone for a long time, these thoughts and behaviors can solidify into habits that make it hard to break the cycle of self-absorption.
That's why it's important to take timely action to get out of the negativity when you realize there's a problem. How can you heal yourself from loneliness? Here are a few reference suggestions:
One, consider adopting a pet.
If bonding with people is difficult, adopting a small animal as a pooper scooper can help shift your emotional attachment and soothe a lonely heart.
Second, take the initiative to create socialization opportunities.
If socializing in reality makes you uncomfortable, try an online platform. In a virtual environment, you are more able to relax and express your thoughts without much worry (but remember to protect your privacy). For example, become a blogger by sharing photos or videos of your life and participate in online activities, which not only reduces loneliness, but also gets you attention and a sense of accomplishment.
Third, avoid excessive rumination.
Loneliness can easily lead us to believe that others have a negative view of us. Fear of rejection is understandable, but indulging in fear will only make things worse. Instead, try to stop second-guessing and look on the bright side, and life will take on a different light.
IV. Seek professional psychological support.
If emotional pain is difficult to control, thoughts of harming yourself arise, or insomnia, anxiety, and other symptoms that seriously affect your life, be sure to seek help from a counselor.
From your description, you don't have extreme thoughts yet, but life is not very happy. Fortunately, you are aware of it, and this is where it would be helpful to see a professional to assess the state, identify psychological barriers, and get emotional support.
Darling, the world and I love you! I'm Hazan, at, and I hope my reply warms your heart!