How to improve your sense of high value
Why my sense of being is so low
Why do my friends say my love is too cheap
What went wrong and where are the roots of the problem
🌹 Hi there! Thank you for reading this article. If you often feel weak and undervalued in your existence, this must be very disturbing and difficult for you.
🌞 A sense of worth is really how we see and value ourselves, and it affects us every day.
As children, most of our self-worth comes from our parents' encouragement, praise and recognition. If parents give more affirmation, children will be more confident.
A child's self-confidence often takes thousands of positive feedbacks from parents to develop.
However, if one grows up in a home where there is a lack of parental praise, the child tends to have a low sense of self-worth. Criticisms and accusations from parents will slowly become the child's inner voice against himself.
🌞 Self-worth and security are closely related, and a person who feels secure enough usually has a high sense of worth.
People who don't feel secure enough tend to build high walls in their hearts and rarely tear them down, so they connect less with the outside world and with others.
The sense of security mainly comes from the "unconditional acceptance" given by the parents as the most important person to the child, "making the child feel centered", and the harmonious relationship between the parents from the age of 4 months to about 3 years old.
🌞 If parents don't give enough psychological nourishment when they are young, they may grow up with relationship problems or personality disturbances.
But don't worry, as adults we can be our own supporters, learning and practicing to replenish our mental nourishment and achieve change and growth.
I hope this helps 🤝 I recommend you read the book Mental Nutrition, it will inspire you even more.